Understanding Pain

Everybody experiences pain. Everybody. For some the magnitude may be a lot more than others but guess what? You can never judge anybody's pain.

Maybe what you think would not hurt you as bad, is hurting them a thousand times more. Everybody has their own mechanism and the way that they function. 

We say that until we have experienced something similar ourselves, we cannot judge what the other person is going through.

I say that even if you have experienced it, you still cannot judge because a pain that hit you 90 percent may be hitting them with a 101 or even a 70. 

So never try to tell someone in pain that you can imagine how they feel because it can never help. When you see someone going through a life swallowing pain, you have to wait. You have to wait for them to choose you. Everybody who goes through something chooses who they want to vent it out to. Plenty of people will come and say that they feel for them, and that they are sorry and they know how hard it must be. But, someone going through that pain will only choose some person that they really want should know how they're feeling. How that pain is killing them from the inside and tearing apart every nerve in their body. 

So, you just have to wait. If that soul looks at you with pain in their eyes and chooses to hug you- only you can really prevent all their pieces from falling apart and softly bandage them back together...